Question: Dear Dr. Dish, I want to get my girlfriend an engagement ring. But after I have seen all of her friends parade around 1.5-plus carat rings, I can’t afford it. She says it doesn’t matter, but it does, doesn’t it? I feel she’ll be embarrassed to wear my itty-bitty ring, which is all I can afford. What should I do?
Answer: You want to marry her? And you’re fairly certain she’s not materialistic and concerned about such ridiculous things as carats? Then propose! The carat size shouldn’t matter! You love her, she loves you, you want to start a life together — isn’t that all that matters?
But I do understand your plight.
I’ve never been a big fan of the engagement ring. I’ve always thought it wasn’t fair to the guy who has to fork over three months’ worth of his salary for something he doesn’t get any mutual benefit. I mean, if you’re going to spend $10,000 on something, get me a 27-inch iMac, a super-size flat-screen TV, three new surfboards and monthly couple massages a year. I’ll say yes!
But I know the engagement ring is a symbol — of what, I’m not sure — that comes with the traditional territory of marriage.
The size, however, is not.
Nowhere does it say the diamond size equals a man’s love or commitment. There are so many other factors in buying a diamond, including clarity and color. I suspect a better quality diamond will cost more, therefore, the carat size might be smaller. Wouldn’t you want something that’s high-quality over a cheap stone filled with flaws?
Women, what do you think?
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