Growing up, I didn’t see how guys and girls couldn’t be friends.
And I think I was partially right.
At the time, sure, guys and girls could hang out on the basketball court, play Trumps and just exist as friends.
But once those “guys” became “men” and those “girls” turned into “women,” things changed.
The question — “Can men and women be just friends?” — has long been debated and played out in sitcoms and movies such as “When Harry Met Sally.” In fact, it was in that movie that Harry, played by Billy Crystal, famously says it’s impossible “because the sex part always gets in the way.”
“How do you know?” asks Sally, played by Meg Ryan.
“Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her.”
And that conversation pretty much summed it up for a lot of us.
The topic was resurrected in Sunday’s New York Times. Essayist William Deresiewicz said that platonic relationships with the opposite actually aren’t rare at all. “But [sex] doesn’t always get in the way. Maybe you’re not attracted to each other. Maybe you know it would never work out, so it’s not worth screwing up your friendship. Maybe that’s just not what it’s about.”
So what do you think? Can men and women be “just friends”? Or do you think it’s never that simple?