Last year I read a story in the Christian Science Monitor about a 66-year-old woman who retired and took a job as a grade school lunch lady.
And she absolutely loves it.
It was a testament to loving what you do — not what your title is or how much money you get paid, which tend to be driving forces in our decisions to take jobs or promotions.
This grandmother loved preparing healthy meals for the kids she cares about. That’s it. “If you hate your job, a good situation can become a bad one,” she said. “If you love your job, you can turn a bad situation into a good one.”
Many of us deal with jobs we don’t like — maybe even hate. I had a friend who used to sit in the parking lot before walking into the office every morning and cry in her car because she hated her job so much. That’s bad.
But what do you do when you’re stuck in a job you loathe — and you’re in the kind of stale economic state as we’re in right now?
Most of us probably do what our parents (and sometimes bosses) have told us to do: suck it up and be happy you have a job. But that doesn’t make us any happier.
The woman in the story had this to say about hating a job you can’t seem to leave: “If you hate your job, stop doing the parts you don’t like and spend more time doing the parts you do like. The worst that can happen is that you get fired from a job you hate, and is that really a loss? The best that can happen is that you start producing much better work that helps you move up the food chain.”
I love this advice.
She sticks to what she loves about her job — making healthy, tasty meals for the kids, following the guidelines put forth and sticking to her budget. But the paperwork and meetings that seem to bog her down? She skips ’em. If there’s something important, she said, they’ll find her in the kitchen actually doing her job.
I asked friends on Twitter and Facebook about whether they were in jobs they loved. And I was surprised — and encouraged — to read that a lot of folks have seemed to find a way to do what they love and get paid for it.
Jeffrey Chun is a pilot for a commercial airlines: “I’m doing exactly what I always wanted to do as a kid and am loving it.”
Ceanne Englar is a teacher and mom: “I get paid with hugs, kisses and ‘I love you’ moments. Sure, I’m a teacher and that’s what pays the bills, but I would give that up in a heart beat if I had to. But mom and wife? Never.”
But it was Technologist at iFIXpro Doc Rock who said it best: “I’m totally doin what I really want and you know good and well I ain’t gettin paid for it. The odd thing is it makes me happy. When I finally committed to ignore the money I found true enjoyment and content. Like a hard to get lover, money noticed me ignoring it and it wanted me more. I think when you are happier money finds you. Maybe I’m weird but I think I’ve finally made it.”
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Honestly, I think that this is AWESOME! I never understood why people would complain about their job on a daily basis and not DO something about it. It is crazy! We live in AMERICA where we have control over our destiny and CAN make choices to change jobs- date who we want etc. I could never work in a job that I hated! 🙂 Hope you are doing what you love + the perks of judging ppl LOL!
@jlieu no wonder you’ve always got that wonderful smile on your face…
XD <<<looks something like that I think… being happy and content makes you WANT to do better work… It's like @docrock says in his "inmyskine" (shameless plug) podcast about passion… "if that's your passion, hey, own it, don't be afraid…" make your passion your work, and your work your passion and you'll never work a day in your life… Right J?
I totally agree with you. But I’ve learned that sometimes we do things — like buy boats or expensive homes — to make up for the fact that we hate our jobs. But then we’re indebted to these same jobs to pay for the things that we hope will make our life more fulfilling. It’s a vicious cycle!
I’m doing exactly what I thought I’d be doing since small kid; technology. I went the long way around to get here (meaning I had a variety of jobs in the past ranging from truck driver to sailboat construction) but i’m here. My co-worker complains constantly about the job and I always remind him, “You may not like this job but believe me there are a lot worse out there”. One summer long ago I worked at my grandfather’s baboyan (pig farm) in Ewa. Believe me, it doesn’t get any worse than that!
I used to always hear from my older relatives about working at the cannery… You’re right, it could be worse! I have air conditioning!
You know, I was in this boat about 4 years ago as a novice teacher in the Public Schools. I loathed my job… I mean ABSOLUTELY LOATHED IT… I hated the meetings, I hated the grading, I hated the fact that I wasn’t teaching what I wanted to teach… It got so bad that I eventually started hating the kids (thats REALLY bad) so I left, at the end of the year, I was done, and I said I am not going back… I’m now employed as the Educational Programs Assistant at the USS Missouri, and I’m loving EVERY SINGLE MINUTE of it. Sure, there are parts that I DON’T like, every job has those… but when I can look myself in the mirror and know that I LOVE what I do, no matter if they paid me for it or not, then I know I’ve found what I need to do. I’m lucky… at 28, I’ve found the one thing that makes me whole. Isn’t that what a job is supposed to do?
NEIL
That’s so awesome, Neil! I’m glad you found out quickly that that job wasn’t for you — and found something that is. Awesome story! Thanks for sharing!
What about volunteering at what you love to do but work at somewhere you don’t? I’ve been volunteering at church doing something that I have a passion for and spend long hours doing it all weekend long and end up drained and exhausted with nothing more than a meal as compensation. That’s usually one meal on saturday and I bring breakfast for the crew on sunday. Yet Iv’e been doing it for 9 years for NO PAY but with lots of sense of acheivement and satisfaction and have honed a particular skill that actually gets paid a lot if you can find the position. So I drudge along weekdays at my loathsome job to pay the bills. Most mondays I call in sick drained from the weekend.
I remember working at a job where I dreaded SUNDAYS — only because I knew that meant the next day was work, and I absolutely dreaded going into the office. That’s no good. I mean, no amount of volunteer work and hobbies will make your day job — the one you work at least 40 hours of your week doing — any better or more bearable.
Power of positive thinking. But what if you cant do what you love because of allergies?
Or the ol’ love my job but hate my boss conundrum? Ride out the misery till Boss man falls down the elevator shaft…or move on?
Hello Cat,
Your co-workers makes a difference too.
AMEN!
I’ve been there, so depressed about going in that I couldn’t get out of my car. After leaving that gig, trying another then becoming self employed I found something I like. I only work 10 months out of the year and have all winter to travel. Very rarely do I have a “bad” day. Somedays may be a little tougher but there is a lot to be said about being able to smile or at least be content most of the day.