ASK DR. DISH: Peek and tell

By • September 8, 2010 • Musings, The Daily Dish

Question: This is so embarrassing I didn’t want to ask my friends about it, so I’m going to ask you, Dr. Dish. I found some explicit text messages on my boyfriend’s cell phone from someone I don’t know. It is just a phone number (no name) and I have been tempted to call it. I haven’t told my boyfriend about it because I do not want him to know that I looked at his cell phone. What should I do?

Answer: Well, you don’t have too many options. You can either confess you looked at his cell phone — which you did and you should probably own up to it — and have a serious discussion about trust and honesty. Or you can ignore what you did — and what he did — and pretend it didn’t happen.

Of course, you know the second option isn’t that easy — or effective, especially if 1) he is cheating and 2) you don’t trust him.

You could easily end up like Tiger Woods’ wife, Elin Nordegren, who’s in the middle of a sexting scandal. Allegedly Woods’ mistress Joslyn James released extremely graphic text messages she collected while engaged in an affair with the pro golfer. (She posted more than 100 of them on her Web site, www.sextingjoslynjames.com. Yeah, she’s really hurt by all this.) Nordegren didn’t know — allegedly — about all these text messages and sexual escapades. Now she stands to inherit more money than most A-list celebrities make in a single career.

Not to say that your boyfriend is actually cheating on you (or that you’ll win millions of dollars in a break-up settlement.) You just need to find out the truth. The thing is you have to also confess what you did — and that’s going to break his trust in you, too.

This is a tough one. My advice is tell the truth. You may as well set the example for him to be honest, too.

Anyone else?

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Bread pudding, Tiger Balm and other favorite smells

By • September 7, 2010 • Musings, The Daily Dish

The other day I got up early and felt inspired to bake. (I think I was having a tough week.) So I rounded up the ingredients to make one of my favorite desserts, bread pudding.

Here’s the thing: I actually like smelling bread pudding baking in the oven more than I like eating it. The combination of bread, butter and cinnamon baking is one of my favorites smells in the world. It’s comforting, it’s homey, it’s calorie-free.

And it got me thinking about how connected we are — at least emotionally — to scents.

There are smells that conjure up memories for me: Tokuhon patches, Tiger Balm, Christmas trees, mock orange blossoms, the ink from ditto machines (remember those?), carnation flowers, bread baking in the oven, Irish Spring soap, Drakkar and that smell in the air at Liberty House.

Then there are smells I just love: lemon, roasted garlic, coffee (even though I don’t drink it), toasted marshmallows, sheets right out of the dryer and puppy breath. (Oh, I can’t tell you how much I love that!)

Try as companies might, but you just can’t bottle up these nostalgic smells. Some — like philosophy’s Cinnamon Buns 3-in-1 body wash — come close. But you just can’t perfectly recreate these olfactory sensations.

So what are your favorite smells? Share them here!

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Small is beautiful, too

By • September 6, 2010 • Musings, The Daily Dish

A few years ago, I went to buy a new bra and was horrified to discover that I had dropped an entire cup size.

A whole cup size! And it’s not like I had enough to spare!

It happens to women, that our breasts can, well, shrink. And it’s not something we look forward to.

But thankfully there’s growing pride in small breasts.

A new blog, Small Bust Big Heart written by woman proud of her 32AA, is a testament to this new-found pride in compact boobs.

And there are more lingerie companies catering to the small-breasted customer, even developing entire lines for AAA- to A-cup sizes. Take Lula Lu, a lingerie Web site and boutique in San Mateo, Calif. Its owner, Ellen Shing, told the New York Times that most of her customers are “happy with their bodies.”

“It’s a misconception still that you want to be bigger if you’re smaller,” she said. (She wears a 36AA.)

While Hollywood has long been blamed for promoting the super-size breasts, there are more and more celebrities — Kiera Knightley, Kate Hudson, Gwyneth Paltrow, Natalie Portman, Ellen Pompeo, Cameron Diaz, Katie Holmes — who are small and proud.

So what do you think about small boobs? Underrated? Or is bigger still better?

Small-Breasted Celebs

Sweet E's Cafe

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This new cafe, only serving breakfast and lunch, opened a couple of months ago in Kilohana Square.

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FUUD: d.k Steakhouse in Waikiki

By • September 3, 2010 • Food, Musings, The Daily Dish

When I crave a good steak, I want a good steak.

From a steakhouse.

So last week, after a serious craving for meat, I decided to try a steak joint I had never been to before: d.k Steakhouse in Waikiki.

It came highly recommended on Twitter — thanks, particularly, to @onokinegridz, for the suggestions — so I booked reservations and went.

d.k Steakhouse, created by local chef D.K. Kodama, along with Hawaii’s top sommelier Chuck Furuya, opened in 2004 to rave reviews. Critics enjoyed the restaurant’s classically and dry-aged U.S. high-grade steaks, particularly the 30-day dry-aged version that quickly became its signature offering.

So you can probably guess what we ate. Here’s a peek:

Studying, working

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We spent most of yesterday studying (him) and working (me) at Fair Trade Coffee House on State Street in Madison, a stone's throw from the university.

d.k Steakhouse, 2552 Kalakaua Ave., third floor. Hours: 5:30-10 p.m. daily. (808) 931-6280.

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Cougars: a myth?

By • September 2, 2010 • Musings, The Daily Dish

Do cougars really exist? Or are these older women prowling for younger men just a myth, a phenomenon created by the media?

A recent study of age preferences among single women conducted by the University of Wales Institute at Cardiff resulted in the head researcher calling cougars a “media construct.”

Yet statistics prove otherwise.

According to a study of 50,000 women daters over 30, conducted by an online dating site in 2007, more than one-third of the subjects showed interest in men at least 5 years younger. And in 2003, an AARP survey revealed 34 percent of 3,500 women (between ages 40 and 69) dated men who are 10 or more years younger than themselves.

Then there are high-profile couples like Susan Sarandon (pictured) and Tim Robbins, who started dating in 1988. She’s 12 years older than him.

Or Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher, married since 2005. She’s 16 years older than her hubby. Even Madonna dated younger men, including her former husband, Guy Ritchie, who’s 10 years her junior.

But is this more of a trend — a rarity — than commonplace?

I wonder about why women traditionally date older men. It makes no sense when you think about it. Age, like many of us pushing 40 will say, is relative. But dating older men does have limitations. I mean, as we get older, our pool of available (and mobile) men shrink. Why put parameters?

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