A friend of mine who got married a few years ago ran down the list of must-dos for my upcoming nuptials.
And many of those included wedding traditions I wasn’t planning on perpetuating.
Things like cutting the cake, folding 1,000 cranes, tossing the bridal bouquet and wearing something borrowed and blue. I don’t even have a bridal party and the only attendants we’ll have at the ceremony are four-legged and very untrustworthy with wedding rings.
I know weddings are steeped in tradition, with everything — from the garter belt to the best man — pinned with significance. And I know our culture plays a role in this, too. But I don’t know enough about the meaning behind each tradition to feel strongly about incorporating them into our wedding.
Why do we share the first piece of wedding cake? Why should I toss the bridal bouquet? Do I really have to wear white?
As you could probably imagine, my wedding is going to be a super casual affair. No program, no speeches, no slide show. It’s just going to food and drinks and music — that’s it.
I told my girlfriend this and she just shook her head. “You have to do something that’s traditional,” she said, slightly exasperated. “I mean, it’s a wedding.”
What do you think? Are there traditions worth keeping? Or would you — did you — ditch tradition to do you own thing?