Pets over partner?

By January 31, 2011 Musings, The Daily Dish

The other day NBC’s “Today” asked the question: “Who would you choose: your sweetheart or your pet?”

And even me, a die-hard pet owner, was surprised by the results of the online poll.

An whopping 84.5 percent of respondents — and there were hundreds! — said they would pick their pets over their mates.

Here were some of the comments:

Pets give you unconditional love and will be there until death, but the minute you’re of no use to people or start looking ugly, you’re SOL!

Men have come and gone, but my bulldogs are here to stay! They are ALWAYS loyal and give unconditional love!

I recently had a ‘sweetheart’ who ‘encouraged’ me to give up my collie. I kept the one who offered unconditional love.

I have to admit, it’s a tough question. I would question the intentions of any guy who asked me to choose between him and my pooches. (It’s not like my dogs would do that.)

It’s like anything else when it comes to relationships: things have to fit. And for some, that may mean a life with dogs (or cats or rats or whatever). We shouldn’t have to sacrifice so much in our lives to be with anyone.

At least that’s what I think.

Anyone else got an opinion? Anyone had to make this decision?

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FUUD: Zia's Caffe in Kaneohe

By January 28, 2011 Food, Musings, The Daily Dish

There’s something about that drive through the Likelike tunnel over to Kaneohe that makes me hungry.

Maybe it’s the stunning views of the Koolau Mountains and Kaneohe Bay from the highway. Maybe it’s that feeling of leaving Honolulu’s crowded urban core to a place where I can actually breathe.

Or maybe it’s because I know that there are dozens of great eateries on the Windward side — and I can’t wait to try some of my favorites.

There’s H&T Burgers — best teriyaki fries around — and Maruki Tei at Windward Mall. (It’s the only mall where you can get hot dogs on a stick, too, by the way.) There’s Formaggio Grill in Kailua, with an mouthwatering lobster bisque. And Boots & Kimo’s Homestyle Kitchen and Cinnamon’s Restaurant, which boast the kind of pancakes that make the trek to Kailua so worthwhile. My all-time favorite malassadas are made at Agnes Portuguese Bake Shop. And you can’t forget Masa & Joyce Okazuya.

The possibilities make me salivate.

But on my last visit to Kaneohe, I decided to retry a great little Italian eatery in Kaneohe town: Zia’s Caffe. (There’s another one in Kailua.)

The restaurant has been serving its brand of Italian cuisine since 1998. And it’s already got its own legion of followers, folks who eat here often enough to know the bread pudding flavor rotation. (Or at least claim to.)

Here’s what we ate on a recent dinner there:

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Zia’s Caffe, 45-620 Kamehameha Highway. Phone: (808) 235-9427, www.ziascaffe.com

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ASK DR. DISH: Teen hates school

By January 27, 2011 Musings, The Daily Dish

Question: I’m pretty sure you do not have kids, but I thought maybe your readers could help me. My teenager daughter is dreading going to college. She was not the best student in high school (like me) and does not want a professional, “cubicle” job. She wants to open her own fashion boutique or join the Peace Corps or something like that. She does NOT want to go to college. But I am still of that school of thought that a college degree is worth something, even if you don’t work in that field, you can use it to “fall back on” later. Am I just being old-fashioned?

Answer: Well, I can answer at least one of your inquiries: No, I don’t have kids. But — you’re in luck — I do teach at a community college, so I know a little something about the college atmosphere and what students go through, to a certain extent.

Honestly, I think if you ask college students — and I just might today! — even they don’t know why they’re there. Some of them know they need a degree in a particular field to get the job they think they want. But a lot of students — at least the ones who sit in my journalism classes — aren’t really sure what they want to do with the rest of their life — and they don’t really want to think about it.

College isn’t what is used to be — a place where people study hard to earn degrees to get jobs. Nowadays, campuses are places where students interact, network, date, meet and, when they feel like it, attend classes and graduate.

A recent report by two economists at the University of California found that over the past four decades the time college students spend in class and studying has decreased substantially, from 40 hours a week in 1961 to 27 hours a week in 2003. And another study found that colleges are spending less on instruction and more on recreation and student services.

Why?

Well, it’s partially our fault.

The best-paying jobs aren’t often the ones that require college degrees. And master’s degrees — let’s face it — are as commonplace as folks with realtor licenses in the ’90s. I don’t get paid more because I have a master’s degree. But I’m paying off a hefty student loan for it. So why bother?

On the other hand, I’ve never subscribed to the belief that everyone needs or should go to college. Some people just aren’t cut out for it. And some just don’t need it. I don’t want my mechanic to have a master’s degree in American studies; I’d like him to be bad-ass at fixing my car.

What students these days care more about is finding a job they actually like — and that’s our fault, too. They’ve heard us — parents, older siblings, bosses — complain about everything from 10-hour workdays to annoying workers — and hating every minute of it. So now they want what we should have wanted, too: a job they don’t mind going to, a career that’s fueled by passion than paycheck.

So if your daughter is really serious about opening her own boutique — I mean, really serious, not just living out some “The Hills” fantasy — then let her do it. A college degree might be worthwhile — but frame it like this: she could learn a lot of finance, accounting, marketing and social media, not to mention make connections that could help her later in life.

What say the rest of you?

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By January 26, 2011 Musings, The Daily Dish, Videos

Oh, admit it.

You’ve forgotten to RSVP to a wedding. You’ve written a check to the bride and groom because you forgot to go to the bank on Friday. And you’ve worn black to the hotel reception.

(OK, I did.)

But are these things truly faux pax in the world of weddings and formal events?

Well, I sit down with Sandra Williams, owner and event designer of Finishing Touch Hawaii, to learn more about proper guest etiquette to formal events.

And let me tell you, I need the advice!

Got a suggestion for someone I should interview? Got an idea for a topic I should tackle? Post ’em here. We love hearing from you!

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Friends with benefits

By January 25, 2011 Musings, The Daily Dish

There’s a new movie that looks at the age-old rom-com question: Can friends have sex without it getting complicated?

In “No Strings Attached,” Ashton Kutcher and Natalie Portman play longtime friends who become FWBs — friends with benefits — because they don’t think they can handle (or want) the demands of a committed relationship. (Read the review in the Christian Science Monitor here.)

The concept has sparked — or, should I say, re-sparked — conversations about “friends with benefits” and whether they actually work.

From reading blogs posts and comments to listening to my friends talk about it, it seems the concept is great — as a concept. FWBs don’t last, and often times exactly what the couple had hope to avoid — feelings getting in the way — is exactly what happens.

Like Salon.com’s Tracy Clark-Flory posed, “Given the high stakes, why do we do it?”

Her former “friend fling” shared his take: “Because the idea of sex without consequences is the most awesome thing on the planet … It’s that delicious, delicious mixture of freedom and dependability. You have somebody you can rely on, you have a safety net, you have somebody you can call when you’re lonely — but you have none of the consequences. You get to not commit but still kinda be committed.”

But what’s a relationship without consequences? No, I’m serious. What’s anything in this life without strings attached? Don’t we want strings? They connect us to people, to experiences, they give value and meaning to our lives.

Call me old-fashioned, but I just don’t think these empty relationships are worth the time, effort and potentially damaging outcomes. Sure, it sounds easy and fun and great — but do they really work? Really?

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