The cheating 'dilemma'

By January 13, 2011 Musings, The Daily Dish

A new movie released tomorrow raised an interesting question: if you caught your best friend’s spouse cheating, what would you do?

That’s the premise behind “The Dilemma,” starring Vince Vaughn and Kevin James. They play best friends and partners in an auto design firm. But Ronny (Vaughn) catches Nick’s (James) wife making out with another guy. And that leaves him wondering what to do. (Read the New York Times review.)

It’s a common dilemma, actually, where you have information that’s both vital and hurtful to your friend.

Me? I’d tell her. Straight up. I wouldn’t let my girlfriend stay with someone who’s cheating on her. But I would have to be absolutely, positively sure her husband were cheating. Could you imagine if he wasn’t? You may have just ruined a marriage — and likely your friendship.

So I’m throwing it out there: if you caught your best friend’s significant other cheating, what would you do? Be honest and risk losing your friendship? Or keep it to yourself? After all, it’s none of your business, right?

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By January 12, 2011 Musings, The Daily Dish, Videos

What are you going to do with all that leftover mochi in your ‘fridge from New Year’s?

There’s only so much ozoni you can make.

Well, you’re in luck!

Our resident foodie Mari Taketa — who’s probably not eating mochi right now in Seoul — has some innovative ways to spice up that boring mochi, a traditional Japanese food served during New Year’s. (You’ll see mochi in ozoni soup, fried with shoyu or doused in kinako flour.)

According to Mari, all you’ll need is some goat cheese and jelly, peanut butter and — our favorite — Nutella.

Don’t believe me? Check out her twist on mochi on today’s Cat Chat.

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By January 11, 2011 Musings, The Daily Dish

Question: Dear Dr. Dish, I want to get my girlfriend an engagement ring. But after I have seen all of her friends parade around 1.5-plus carat rings, I can’t afford it. She says it doesn’t matter, but it does, doesn’t it? I feel she’ll be embarrassed to wear my itty-bitty ring, which is all I can afford. What should I do?

Answer: You want to marry her? And you’re fairly certain she’s not materialistic and concerned about such ridiculous things as carats? Then propose! The carat size shouldn’t matter! You love her, she loves you, you want to start a life together — isn’t that all that matters?

But I do understand your plight.

I’ve never been a big fan of the engagement ring. I’ve always thought it wasn’t fair to the guy who has to fork over three months’ worth of his salary for something he doesn’t get any mutual benefit. I mean, if you’re going to spend $10,000 on something, get me a 27-inch iMac, a super-size flat-screen TV, three new surfboards and monthly couple massages a year. I’ll say yes!

But I know the engagement ring is a symbol — of what, I’m not sure — that comes with the traditional territory of marriage.

The size, however, is not.

Nowhere does it say the diamond size equals a man’s love or commitment. There are so many other factors in buying a diamond, including clarity and color. I suspect a better quality diamond will cost more, therefore, the carat size might be smaller. Wouldn’t you want something that’s high-quality over a cheap stone filled with flaws?

Women, what do you think?

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A life worth living

By January 10, 2011 Musings, The Daily Dish

It was standing-room only — with an overflow in a separate room — at First Assembly of God in Red Hill on Saturday.

The attendance — more than 1,000 people were there, with a line to visit the family twisting through the church, down the stairs and through the parking lot — was a testament to the life of Zachary Manago, an 18-year-old recent graduate of Moanalua High School with an 800-watt smile who loved baseball, cycling and God.

He was killed in a hit-and-run on Dec. 17, as he rode a stretch of Kamehameha Highway near Wheeler Air Force Army Airfield with about 35 other cyclists. It happened at 11:10 p.m. Zachary was struck from behind by a white SUV. He was thrown from his bike and was later pronounced dead at Wahiawa General Hospital.

He was just a few weeks from starting baseball practice at Hawaii Pacific University, where he was recruited to pitch. It was his dream to be a professional baseball player — a dream that was dashed in an instant.

His uncle delivered the eulogy. I’m sure he never thought he’d be talking at his nephew’s funeral.

And Zachary’s two friends — still teenagers — spoke, too, calling him a true friend, a peacemaker and “the nicest guy I ever met.”

I wondered how this could happen. How could a young, healthy, friendly, goodhearted 18-year-old with so much potential, with so much to give in this world, be struck down so suddenly by a driver too cowardly to stop to help? (A 25-year-old Mililani man was later arrested.) Why do these things happen — not just to an 18-year-old, but to anyone?

Death is what makes life precious, it’s what should be driving us to live. Because at any moment, it can happen. To anyone. Death is equal opportunity.

I stood in the back of the packed church, leaning against a counter that thankfully had a box of Kleenex, thinking about Zachary and how many people he — even in his death — has touched. He made me realize that life is fleeting, that if we don’t stop what we’re doing — stop chasing paychecks, stop holding grudges, stop complaining, stop being selfish, stop denying ourselves happiness — then what’s the point of living?

I’ve decided life is too short to worry about the laundry, to fret over buying a new computer, to complain about rush-hour traffic, to hate running, to postpone a lunch date with a friend, to watch TV instead of read a book.

Zachary knew that. And though he won’t be pitching for HPU or riding around town with his red backpack, he’s still there, in the backs of our minds, reminding us that life is worth living.

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Remembering Zachary

httpv://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dKmaW_BY7To

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FUUD: Sorabol the best Korean eats?

By January 7, 2011 Food, Musings, The Daily Dish

I love Korean food.

You name it, I’ll probably eat it.

And it’s not because I watch Korean dramas. (I don’t.) And it’s not because I love spicy foods. (I do, but my stomach doesn’t.)

It’s the big, robust, no-shame flavors of this cuisine that make it one of my favorites.

So I’m always looking for the restaurant that’s going to serve me the best.

I’ve asked my friends — virtual and real-life ones — what Korean restaurants rank in their Top 3. Consistently, Sorabol Korean Restaurant on Keeaumoku Street make the list. Sometimes at the top, sometimes rounding out the three.

The thing is — and I can already hear the hush of shock — I have never been there. Never. I’ve wanted to — and I’ve been asked to go, especially by my girlfriend, Luana, who can’t seem to live without Korean food — but I just never went. Mostly because I have hole-in-the-wall mainstays that I’m loyal to. And mostly because I didn’t buy the hype.

So the other day, I caved. (Well, and I was craving meat juhn.) So I went.

Here’s what our recent visit looked like:

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Agree? Or got a better Korean place for me to try? Post your favorites here. I’m all ears!

Sorabol Korean Restaurant,, 805 Keeaumoku St. Phone: 808-947-3113.

805 Keeaumoku St
Honolulu, HI 96814
(808) 947-3113

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