We all have them.
But when do you have to share them with your partner — and when can you keep them to yourself?
It’s a tough question.
People keep secrets for different reasons. Sometimes it’s to save face — you don’t need to share embarrassing moment from childhood with your mate. But sometimes couple don’t dish when they should.
But how can you tell?
For example, I tell my boyfriend everything — and probably to a fault. He hates that I tell him about my past relationships; these are clearly topics he’d rather I keep to myself. But on the other hand, I want to know more about his exes — but he doesn’t want to share. I view that as being secretive; he sees it as being courteous.
I was watching a segment on NBC’s “Today” about couples keeping secrets. The discussion was about sharing confidential information such as bank account numbers and passwords.
Then I read a story in Redbook about the same topic. It said even the healthiest couples hide things from each other.
To most of us, the secret to end all secrets (and many marriages) is an affair—and no one will quibble with the devastating consequences of infidelity. Yet even “small” deceptions can rock a relationship, and it can be hard to draw the line between what’s harmless and what’s not.
So what should you share? Embarrassing stories? Medical history? Salaries? Past relationships? Actual weight? Passwords?
What do you think?