My husband — like many of my male friends — refuses to get a massage from a male therapist.
And he doesn’t like the idea of me getting one from a guy, either.
See, I don’t care about the gender of my massage therapist. Men, women — it never matters. I’ll take anyone who’s available — as long as they know what they’re doing.
I have certain standards for massages — and gender has never been a factor. I want my massage therapist to work the areas I request and keep the conversation to a minimum. That’s it. I’ve had too many experiences where the therapist massaged an area I recently injured and talked the entire session. Once, I had a therapist who was recently dumped by her boyfriend and she took out that anger on my lower back. It wasn’t fun.
But back to gender.
Guys aren’t always the strongest; the most brutal massage I’ve ever had was by a Chinese woman in a clinic — and I hurt for days. And I don’t feel uncomfortable getting massaged by a guy, either. Let’s face it, many OBGYNs are men. Talk about a vulnerable position to be in. So it’s never mattered.
But for my guy friends, it does.
Anyone else feel the same way? Or are there other instances where gender matters to you?