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Why I love Mrs. Yajima so much

By Catherine Toth Fox • July 22, 2013 • Musings, The Daily Dish

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The first time I met Lillian Yajima I was 25 years old and knew barely anything about my Japanese heritage.

I was a contestant in the 49th Cherry Blossom Festival — yes, this was more than 10 years ago! — and getting to know more about my mother’s Japanese culture.

As a fourth-generation half-Japanese-American — not even full! — I was pretty removed from that culture. Sure, I took three years of Japanese language in high school, but that did little for me when I first visited Japan in 2001. I could only ask people, “How old are you?” It’s not a helpful phrase.

But as a contestant, I was exposed to a variety of different aspects of a culture that was as foreign to me as my Hungarian heritage. I took up taiko (Japanese drumming) — which I still do — and learned the art behind ikebana (Japanese flower-arranging). I learned Japanese business etiquette — you’d be surprised how different it is! — and the beauty of odori (Japanese dance).

And from Mrs. Yajima, we learned how to make manju and fold origami.

Or so we thought.

What we really learned was something deeper. We learned the importance of listening, of sharing, of respect, of service.

photo-22 copyMrs. Yajima, who turned an astonishing 93 this month, is the kind of woman every contestant would like to grown up to be.

She’s humble and generous, she’s respectful and kind, and she whips up a mean manju.

Not to mention, she’s part of a legacy in Hawaii.

Her husband was chairman of the first Cherry Blossom Festival Queen Contest 63 years ago. Her mother, Alice Noda, was the first U.S. citizen president of the Japanese Women’s Society of Hawaii. Her daughter, Lenny Andrew, was a former CBF queen, festival general chair and president of the Honolulu Japanese Junior Chamber of Commerce; she also served as the executive director of the Japanese Cultural Center of Hawaii. And Yajima, herself, is still active in JWS, the United Japanese Society, the JCCH and, of course, CBF. (She still teaches origami-folding and manju-making to the contestants every year. It’s always one of their favorite classes.)

Her background as a former schoolteacher is evident when you meet her: all she wants to do is teach you something, whether it’s hula — she’s teaches it to residents of Hale Pulama Mau care home at Kuakini Medican Center — or how to speak her super-secret Yajima language. (I’d discuss it here, but then it wouldn’t be a secret anymore.)

And at 93, she’s still vibrant, still feisty, still full of stories and love.

And she can operate a cell phone. Even my mom has trouble with that!

So to Mrs. Yajima, who’s inspired countless young women — Japanese or not — here’s wishing you another 93 years. Because, truth be told, your legacy will last even longer than that.

Speaking of Cherry Blossom Festival, applications for this coming year is due Aug. 1. If you’re between the ages of 19 and 26, at least 50 percent Japanese and a Hawaii resident, you can apply here.

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8 Comments

  • Reply Ed Oshiro July 22, 2013 at 9:46 pm

    Cat,

    GREAT read as always, but, this one is super special due to the recognition of one of Hawaii’s living legends.

    Ed O.

  • Reply David Jackson July 23, 2013 at 2:50 am

    Sweet. What a lovely tribute.

  • Reply Annoddah_Dave July 23, 2013 at 6:00 am

    CAT: I am sure you appreciate what old folks have in the way of wisdom and knowledge based on their time on earth. Few young people even care. Seniors generally want to make life easier for succeeding generation but the progeny often think that it is just old stuff. Of late I find myself saying and doing the same things my folks did…it is kind of spooky, in a sense. “Life repeating itself”….

  • Reply Dennis July 23, 2013 at 6:05 am

    Wow! I know where you’re coming from. I was involved with the Narcissus Queen Contest and the Chinese Jaycees back in the 60’s and have great memories working with the Japanese Junior Chamber. Great blog! Great tribute for all the tireless workers of these scholarship events.

    • Reply Dennis July 24, 2013 at 2:42 pm

      Another WOW! Queen Cat!!!!!! I saw a picture of you with your Kimono and you have not aged!! Fantastic!

  • Reply M July 23, 2013 at 9:28 am

    Hello Cat!
    What a great story!
    Happy Birthday Mrs. Yajima!

  • Reply eddyo July 23, 2013 at 10:20 am

    Good Morning,

    I met Mrs. Yajima many years ago when my Japanese club at UH helped out at some of the CBF functions. I remember what sparkle her eyes shone & what dedication she has with perpetuating the Japanese culture.

    My question to you is how does a hapa girl with no particular interest in Japanese become a contestant? If I remember right, weren’t you the first queen without a Japanese surname? If so, my kudos to you for even entering, because I know Japanese can be a bit stodgy & slow in accepting change!

  • Reply DIO July 23, 2013 at 7:25 pm

    Yajima-sama, Otanjoubi Omedetou Gozaimasu!

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